Ready For A New Relationship?

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Long Bank Holiday weekends, Valentines Day, family holidays and key social events can often appear to be cosy twosome or household arrangements and in these times being single can feel especially lonely and unloved.

That the days and weeks post-Christmas and holidays are two of the busiest times of the year for divorce attorneys can do little to provideĀ comfort or alleviate the loneliness and sense that we are missing out on something special. Sometimes we can sigh and believe that we really do not need to be single any longer.

– Many men and women who don’t need to be single pick to join online dating sites and these can be an effective way of finding someone with similar tastes and interests who fits our criteria. These sites often provide good practical advice when making their introductions. By way of example, be careful how much personal information you disclose and restrict a first meeting to an hour so that neither person feels trapped for an indefinite period of time. If you hit it off your next date can last as long as you like.

– Stay safe. Trust your gut instincts if something feels wrong and arrange for the first meeting to be in a public place. An increasing number of people use these sites efficiently, but it’s still a good idea to tell a friend where you’re going and maybe get them to phone you after an hour to ensure that you’re okay.

– Accept if friends, colleagues or somebody in your circle offers to introduce you to someone they know. The individual may be a great fit for you so why not agree to meet them. Even if nothing comes of it you’ve met someone new and done something different. Being able to mix and talk to new people is an important skill that can be quickly lost if we are out of practice and haven’t dated for a while.

– Manage your own expectations. It might be exciting if fireworks go off when we meet somebody for the first time, but don’t invest all your hopes and dreams in a new relationship from the beginning. Having a pleasant couple hours over coffee, lunch or a walk can be a great way to initially meet someone and may result in you making a special new friend even if they don’t turn into a lover.

– Make invitations. Be proactive and get on mailing lists for what’s happening locally. Then it is possible to organise trips to shows, exhibitions and events. Join in if others do the same and invite you to join them. Circulate regularly so that you’re adding to a network of connections whilst having a fantastic social life and keeping in touch with what’s happening around you.

– Do things you enjoy. Volunteering, joining a course, walking group or undertaking an activity you enjoy keeps you occupied and lets you mix and meet with people who have similar interests to yourself. Enjoy meeting, sharing activities, becoming friends and gradually you will develop a loving relationship with someone you’ve already created a fun connection with.

– Don’t try too hard. And bear in mind that being single is not the end of the world! Lots of people in unhappy relationships no doubt envy you your freedom and ability to do whatever you want whenever you choose.

Appreciate each stage of life and enjoy the opportunities that come your way. Single or partnered, every situation has its pros and cons. Being comfortable with yourself and your life takes the strain off finding a new partner and frequently contributes to a new relationship coming your way when you least expect it to.

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