A child watches as a mother cuddles her daughter into their play together. A teenage girl walks beyond a group of peers as they laugh and talk together. A young man lays aside his values to become part of a crowd. A single mom flips the pages of a magazine as she watches couples strolling through the park. An older man picks a daisy and ponders the hole left in his heart by the loss of his beloved spouse. Loneliness is a worldwide outbreak.
There’s loneliness and then there is pathological loneliness. All of us experience loneliness at times throughout our lives when there is a loss of a loved one, loss of a connection, or your child moves away to start his own life. But pathological isolation is like a bottomless pit. When the emptiness takes hold it sounds almost impossible to fill up with love. Just like a leaky cup losing water; the hole in the victim’s heart never seems to cure. No matter how many people reach out to help, love-hunger continues to gnaw away at the person whenever he or she’s alone. This kind of emptiness is most commonly caused from deep psychological wounds which have been inflicted in childhood.
When children don’t receive adequate affection and affirmation they find themselves lacking in self-esteem, confidence, and purpose as they grow. They often flounder in their social skills, education, and psychological stability. All of which leaves them lonely and wanting.
Although for these individuals, a deep intimate relationship with the Creator of the Universe appears impossible, the best means of curing a lonely heart is developing a close relationship with your Heavenly Father. He knows how to fill all the cracks and crevices where loneliness lurks. Christian counseling may also be a necessity to get to the root causes and bring about psychological and emotional healing.
There is a lot you can do to help yourself go out of your isolation and build new friendships that can be both stimulating and fulfilling.
• Recognize what it is that triggers your lonely feelings.
• Describe the effects that loneliness has in your life, both physically and mentally.
• Make a list of potential adjustments that can be brought about in yourself and your activities to allow more social interaction.
• Seek out people who share similar attitudes, interests, and values with you.
• Create new friendships by joining small groups like a Bible Study, book club or walking group.
• Volunteer to sit on a committee or look for options to function in your community. These opportunities are both rewarding and beneficial to your psychological health as you meet people and cultivate new friendships and social interactions.
• learn how to see yourself as God sees you. You were made with unique gifts, abilities and personality traits that will be a blessing others.
Loneliness can be overcome; however you will need to make a conscious effort on your part to produce a change in your daily routines. Making the effort to alter how you see social activities, friendships and yourself can finally make you happier and healthier. You will surprise yourself in the way you positively affect others around you.